And The Winner Is…from Ms. Coco

And The Winner Is…from Ms. Coco

It’s been a quick February. As we all know, February is only three days shorter than the average month but it certainly feels like its a week shorter. This week the Gentleman Farmer and I haven’t really focused on our hobbies so much but much learning has been taken place. Last Sunday, I got a flat tire running hard over a curb (it jumped out of nowhere)…He had to come save me miles away from where I was headed, Sonic Drive In. I have an obsession with fresh ice and only one Sonic in the city of Lexington will give it to me without questioning my motives. So today the GF decided to teach me how to change my own tire. It wasn’t as hard as I imagined, although I will have to build some muscle strength to take the lug nuts off the wheel. I do feel confident that if I ever get another flat tire I can safely change that thang!

I must also add to the learning that the Gentleman Farmer finished his very first piece of apparel. He completed an apron while I had a “girl’s night” with my homies! He showcased it for me when I got back. I am so proud of my babe! It looks WAAAAYYYY better than my first piece of clothing (although I must say he has a way better teacher than I did). He can now conquer the world of fashion…or at least make a vest that he won’t be ashamed of wearing out in public. That was our goal. I think I did a great job this month of teaching him my skill…now if we can come to a conclusion about what he was supposed to teach me then we can appropriately declare a winner (I have a feeling it will be me).

In the previous post by the Gentleman Farmer he mentioned my birthday and Valentine’s Day. I didn’t really do very much with his gifts. My philosophy is to get “great” gifts at the beginning so people won’t realize I really am a horrible gift giver down the road. But I did have a marvelous time for my birthday. MY twin sister, Natalie, and her boyfriend came for the weekend. It was fun spending time one week with them in Kentucky. A different scene for them and we incorporated some of my favorite places. Friends from North Carolina that I haven’t seen for years happened to be in town for another reason and stopped by for our game night. We had a BLAST and it felt like we were back in our college days. Also, my friends that I have met while dating The Gentleman Farmer came and hung out with us. That was really special for me. I love when my old and new friends get to meet, and what better way than a game night?

We are getting Bates (the standard poodle) on Wednesday! I cannot wait! I am sure the Gentleman Farmer can’t either. Especially since he will be living at his house. And we lived through a new experience this weekend…matching tattoos. Ha! I would say that was a big step for us. In all actuality, it was my idea and I kept asking the GF if he would get one…but I never thought he would do it! However, he made the appointment, went first, and handled it like a beast! Me, on the other hand, had my homies there to support me and hold my hand. It hurt like a pain I’ve never felt before and never will again. But I would do anything with the GF…I believe he’ll never steer me wrong. A faith like that has to be something special. Plus I told him we’ll never break up now. We’re in this for LIFE!

March is the beginning of our Lent/Savings/Trip Planning activities. We have started on our trip: CUBA! We are going in August and this trip seems to be LARGER THAN LIFE! I can’t wait to experience Havana and my Dirty Dancing fantasies…haha. Plus, I am serious about my savings kick! I read an article earlier this week on CNBC about how much a person should have in their savings by the time they hit thirty. Let’s just say I’m lacking and I need to catch up quick. And I have never participated in Lent before but I believe I/we can do anything we set our minds to. So here’s to the end of February and the beginning of spring weather!


Puppies, cake, and birthday games.

Puppies, cake, and birthday games.

It’s been a crazy week! Somehow the end of February has decided to cram Valentine’s Day, Ms.Coco’s birthday, and our one year anniversary into less than two weeks. We are also looking for a new puppy and we have family coming in to visit for the weekend.

Ms. Coco has really outdone me this year for Valentine’s Day. She managed to get one gift for each of the five senses. Not only that, they were very professionally wrapped. I got her two books; one she has been wanting and another one I thought she would like. Wish me luck! I had some flowers sent to her office and I made sure to surprise her with dinner (her favorite pizza in the shape of a heart and her favorite dessert , macaroons).

As for the year long challenge, we’re almost done with my first ever sewing project. We’re making a cooking apron. I’m still hoping to teach Ms. Coco something over the next two weeks; any suggestions?

For Ms. Coco’s birthday we had several events to celebrate her big #…#(can’t bring myself to disclose her age for both security and the fact that age is just a number)! We had dinner, went to a breakout game, and then had a board game night. I surprised her with a cake and with way too many trick candles that almost burnt down my house, set several people’s hair on fire, and did burn a large portion of the cake. Luckily I bought lots of wine so no one really noticed me running through the house with a flaming birthday cake.

We also did find a new puppy this week. He is a apricot colored Standard Poodle. We made a little road trip to see him this week. Now I just have to try  to negotiate with the breeder for a better price. Wish me luck and hopefully there will be a new puppy hanging around soon!

Hobbies and Such…from Ms. Coco

Hobbies and Such…from Ms. Coco

This  month the Gentleman Farmer and I are sharing our hobbies with each other and are going to attempt to teach each other those special skills that require us to excel at the hobby. I chose to teach the GF how to sew. He mentioned months ago that he wanted to use my sewing machine to make a dress for me. He borrowed a shirt of mine, bought some fabric, and took the sewing machine with him…and that’s as far as he got. I also agreed that I would wear the dress no matter what it looked like. Now that I am teaching him how to sew the dress will more than likely look a little more wearable and presentable. The Gentleman Farmer is doing quite well on his lessons. I think I am a much better teacher than he is; I did get my undergraduate degree in Education.

The Gentleman’s Farmer is not having as much success with his teaching as I am. To his credit, he is slightly at a disadvantage because his hobby was changed at the last minute. He wanted to teach me how to snowboard. I am kind of glad that didn’t work out; we went snowboarding in December and my feelings were so hurt that I couldn’t master the miniature bunny slope! I mean kids who were THREE years old were beating me down that hill! Do you know how crushed my ego was?! Now that the weather isn’t cooperating (global warming and all) he has chosen home maintenance. I love it that my man can fix many things and that he wants to teach me things I don’t know. However, I am a hands-on person. And I think he missed that fact about me. The Gentleman Farmer wanted to install a vanity. I learned how to put putty around the sink drain and that’s about it. For about an hour I watched him wiggle underneath the sink before he finally quit whatever it was he was doing. I told him later that he needed to rethink his teaching strategy or he’s going to lose this month’s challenge. The next day he gave me a different task to do with instructions on how to complete it. I successfully sanded and bonded together two pipes. We also redecorated an upstairs bedroom successfully, but I did take interior design courses while I was in college as part of my major. I believe I taught the GF more information than he attempted to teach me.

I do happen to like these challenges the Gentleman Farmer and I are participating in. I am learning so much more about myself than I ever thought I could. And I also realize how well we work together and what we need to continually work on. We are only in the second month of the challenge, as well as year, but we seem to roll with the punches in style. The good, the not so pleasant, and the boring. Nothing can stop my partner in crime and myself.

Dispatch #2 from the Gentlemen Farmer

Dispatch #2 from the Gentlemen Farmer

So how is the first month of this New Year going? I would have to say (pardon my French) pretty darn well! No one (knock on wood) that I know has died yet, which for some reason is always a worry for me this time of year. That is also kind of the point of health and fitness month also. I also hope this extends Ms. Coco and my life expectancy so we can enjoy each other for as long as possible.

As far as the healthy eating and fitness part of the challenge, well I’m slacking a little bit. My diet has been ok, I’ve been cooking at home a least 5 days a week when I eat out I try to eat plenty of vegetables and lean meats. I’ve been making lots of stews in my new handy dandy pressure cooker. I even managed to save the day with my Pressure cooker but I’ll let Ms. Coco tell you about that.

 My fitness has been slacking. I’m working a lot and trying to squeeze at least 3-4 workouts in a week and have been able to manage most of the time. However last month I did better with 4-5 workouts a week. Most of them are running 2-3 miles, lifting weights, and Hot Yoga for an hour in a 106-degree room. Ms. Coco and I plan to cap the month off with a 5K.

For my mind I have been reading a lot, writing, meditating, and returned to my writing classes at The Carnegie Center (these are great for inspiration and helping me refocus on my goals). The meditation is something new for me and I downloaded an app to remind me to meditate daily along with the meditation I do while at yoga or while running.

 For my spirit I have been focusing like I said on my meditation. Ms. Coco came up with the idea of me going to church with her. This is something she had been inviting me to do for a while. I usually go to hot yoga (my own religious experience) on Sunday and prepare for my week ahead. Since she has joined me at hot yoga a few times it is only fair I join her at church. I have to admit I’ve never much enjoyed church. Growing up I spent a few years in Catholic school; this scared me away from formal religion in several ways. I still wince when I see nuns.

This church was not at all what I expected. Well it was a little bit when it came to the collection plate. It was very laid back and I was not scared of anyone hitting me with a ruler. The service was very nice it started with several songs; the singers, especially the lead singer really got into it. Then the preacher spoke for about 30 minutes and that was about it. We were in and out in about an hour. I would have to say I wouldn’t mind going back again as long as we don’t have to sit in the front behind the lady recording the service on her cell phone or underneath the large speaker system. Maybe next time I’ll remember to bring cash to put in the collection plate.

“Hidden Figures”“The Gentleman Farmer with his foot in his mouth”

“Hidden Figures”“The Gentleman Farmer with his foot in his mouth”

So last night I messed up. Ms. Coco and I went to see a movie. That’s not how I messed up. We went to see the movie “Hidden Figures”, about the role women of color, played in the early days of the NASA as mathematicians or “computers” as they called them in the film.

I’m into space movies and Ms. Coco is a strong black woman (as she reminds me regularly, since I tend to forget sometimes) so this movie already peaked my interest. I have been known to read the NASA’s website and get updates about NASA missions and discoveries on my phone. As for my interest in women of color and their issues, history, and struggle I will say this. I care deeply for Ms. Coco and what she cares about, so these are important issues for me too. I’m always trying hard to understand her and what she cares about. I’m always trying to find new and inventive was to show my proud HBCU graduate (Ms. Coco) that I love and adore her for all the magic she brings into my life (in her case black girl magic as she likes to remind me). What is black girl magic? Well we will have to get into that at a later date. 

So you may be asking yourself, what I am talking about. I ask myself that all the time! I’m getting there in my own clumsy roundabout way.

As Ms. Coco and I were walking out of the theater to the car, she turned to me and asked. “Honey, what did you like about the movie?” Wait for it… I’m about to put my foot in my mouth. I said in my slightly dazed post movie mumble, “ Well… I liked the movie; it was about math, science, and space travel all things I like. Kevin Costner’s character was an interesting role in the film, and I was surprised to see Jim Parson’s form Bing Bang Theory” then lastly I did say “it was such an interesting story about how these women found a way to make history against all the odds they faced during that era”. This was in hindsight, was definitely what I should have lead with!

These women, like the space program, were able to do something truly inspiring and amazing, at a time when people did not have much respect for women, especially women of color.

So what was my mistake, some of you may ask? Well I did not mention first and foremost the accomplishments of these women and how they struggled (this was the whole point of the film). This is clearly still a problem today, especially for women of color. Men tend to miss how women, especially women of color, are ignored, overlooked, and discriminated against. Clearly I’m no exception in this regard since I missed the whole point of this film.

Like the early days of the space program, men are still in the early days of learning how amazing, vast, deep, and truly beautiful women (especially women of color) truly are.